One Nation Divided Over A Movement- Your Life Matters

One Nation Divided 

The proximate cause of slavery’s end in the United States was the passage of the 13th Amendment to the Constitution, which made Lincoln’s Emancipation Proclamation permanent and applicable to the loyal states in addition to the states in rebellion.

The 13th Amendment to the U.S. Constitution, ratified in 1865 in the aftermath of the Civil War, abolished slavery in the United States. The 13th Amendment states: “Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude, except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted, shall exist within the United States, or any place subject to their jurisdiction.” (


I honestly do not know how to feel. Over the last several weeks, I have gone through many emotions. Emotions from sadness to now almost a sickening, unsettling feeling brewing inside of me.

My social media is not a safe place any longer. Opinions are opposed and not respected, if you believe in good cops and just law enforcement, you are wrong.

If you do not hashtag BlackLivesMatter, you are judged for not supporting the African American community and therefore racists. When this is not the case at all. 

 If you do not support the Democratic party, you are a racist.

Apparently now is a time in America to focus on the suffering of African Americans only.

Appearing perfectly acceptable for riots to be happening during the midst of a pandemic. The norm for our cities and communities to be torn apart and burned because we cannot go back and change the past. This is what continues to be spoken by one hand, then the other hand states it is due to police brutality. All I see is hate!

I watch videos of innocent children being taught that all of this is acceptable. Being taught that police are all corrupt and just out to kill minorities. Children being taught that they WILL automatically judged because of the color of their skin.

The news runs on and through social media looting, unruliness, business being defaced, the police being cursed at, elderly men being pushed to the ground by the police.

It is frightening! WE are at war with each other. Every race, every political party, every religion! Emotions are high. People are scared. I am scared. This is a time in my life where yet again I am being judged by the color of my skin. It is assumed that I am privileged because I am Caucasian.

Let us take a step back for a moment and realize that there are people of all races, ethnicity, income levels, religions, political views, etc., that are going to judge. They will judge you based on what neighborhood you come from, your skin color, your economic status, what schools you went to. It is not going to matter how hard you have worked in some cases. It will not matter the adversity you have overcome. They will judge, they will discriminate.


Unfortunately, during a post on one of my social media accounts, I faced a huge backlash, from a person that once was my manager. She is African American; her social media makes that very clear. When I look at her, I never saw her color. I saw her as a human, the same as I would see anyone else. After yesterday’s events, I see someone that I do not respect at all. Her opinion appeared to be the only one that mattered.

My views on today’s happenings are heart-felt. They are not discriminatory.

Before these “confrontational” posts, where she went on to tell me what she thought of me, I looked at her wall. She stands her ground. Her way or no way. You simply cannot have a real conversation with a person such as that. One who refuses to see any other point of view. Her social media was plastered with so much hate against police, other posts that could be deemed as racists, yet I was the one being slammed. 

Yet, basically, I was being told I do not support African American rights and equality or was ignorant because I do not support the “BlackLivesMatter” movement. How is it that I can be told that I should support a movement that is what I feel, is completely against Caucasians?

Yes, I feel, and this is my feeling, from my experience, this “movement” is to lump Caucasians into one group, which are racists.

Let me share with you a little about “BlackLivesMatter” movement, directly from

#BlackLivesMatter was founded in 2013 in response to the acquittal of Trayvon Martin’s murderer. Black Lives Matter Foundation, Inc is a global organization in the US, UK, and Canada, whose mission is to eradicate white supremacy and build local power to intervene in violence inflicted on Black communities by the state and vigilantes. By combating and countering acts of violence, creating space for Black imagination and innovation, and centering Black joy, we are winning immediate improvements in our lives.

The BLM movement outline sounds great! Who doesn’t want to combat police brutality, injustice, and violence?

I reviewed a lot of the work of BLM and they are supported by Leftists, they are against Trump. Also, Yusra Khogali, the Canadian leader for BLM continues to spew hate against whites. She has called Canadian Prime Minister a white supremacist, she has made public statements on Twitter asking Allah to hear her prayers and to help her not kill white folks. She has even stated how the white people have a ‘recessive genetic defects’ and mused about how the race could be ‘wiped out.’

There are so many articles depicting the “movement” to be racists as well. These articles are not written all by Caucasians. One that was very eye-opening for me was (link below) written on June 3, 2020, by Derryck Green. In this article, Mr. Green states

“The protests are outlets that broadly reinforce the narrative of perpetual black victimization. Blacks, almost singularly on the Left, have thrown tantrum after public tantrum, an ongoing form of racial humiliation, attempting to convince an increasingly disinterested multiracial audience that blacks continue to be victims of white racial predators. Black Lives Matter is generating more racial resentment against the movement specifically, and black folks in general.

In my opinion, this racial anger emanating from these black activists is misdirected. It is not about blacks being victims of anti-black racism, regardless of what is claimed. In truth, what we are witnessing demonstrates the failure of a segment of blacks to fully integrate into American society while still embracing an oppositional, dysfunctional, victimized culture, an obvious consequence of racial solidarity and racial identity politics.

Thus, it is not necessarily angering we have seen from blacks; many times, it is not about ‘justice’. It is about black frustration with the lack of socio-economic success (apart from government intervention and white guilt), in the era of integration. Specifically, too much of black success continues to be dependent on special privileges and the soft bigotry of low expectations. Black accomplishment is persistently tainted because rules are bent, broken, and lowered to engineer black achievement at the expense of black development. So, it is understandable that black achievement, dependent on different and lower standards, has created and nurtured a sense of racial inferiority.” (

Maybe, my understanding of the movement itself is incorrect. I know what I see. I see protest after protest that is not peaceful. I hear African-Americans making fun of White Americans for holding up “black fist”, as they stand together in these protests.

During a protest, there is still a divide! I DO NOT UNDERSTAND!


What is White Supremacy?

White supremacy, beliefs, and ideas purporting natural superiority of the lighter-skinned, or “white,” human races over other racial groups. In contemporary usage, the term white supremacist has been used to describe some groups espousing ultranationalist, racist, or fascist doctrines. White supremacist groups often have relied on violence to achieve their goals.

Sickening, right? What are these current protests doing? I see violence against the community, the police, and this could be all media controlled. The media does have a way of controlling what we see. 


White Privilege According to Peggy McIntosh

In 1988, Peggy McIntosh, a women’s studies scholar with sociological inclinations, penned an essay and cemented a concept that has become a mainstay for the sociology of race and ethnicity. “White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack,” provided real-world, tangible examples of a concept and social fact that had been acknowledged and discussed by others, but never before in such a compelling way.

White Privilege Today

Yet, in societies fundamentally structured by race, understanding one’s white privilege, regardless of other social characteristics or positions one embodies, is still deeply important. And, given that the meaning of race and the forms that racism takes are ever-evolving in the process of racial formation, it is important to update our sociological understanding of how white privilege has changed over time. While McIntosh’s descriptions of white privilege are still perfectly relevant, there are some additional ways in which it manifests today, like:

  • The ability to speak and write from an unchallenged position of authority (see, for instance, commenters online).
  • The ability to hold onto wealth during the economic crisis (Black and Latino’s families lost far more wealth during the home foreclosure crisis than did white families);
  • Protection from experiencing the brunt of negative implications of climate change (economically vulnerable and politically unstable populations, mostly people of color in the global south, are disproportionally affected).
  • Protection from the lowest wages and most dangerous labor conditions cultivated by the globalization of production;
  • Being able to deny that racism exists.
  • Believing in and cultivating sympathy from others for “reverse racism“;
  • Being unconcerned with the racial implications of political candidates one supports.
  • Believing you worked hard for and earned everything you have without receiving any help or advantages.
  • Believing that people of color who have achieved success have been given racially motivated advantages.
  • The ability to adopt a victim status rather than engaging in critical self-reflection when accused of racism;
  • Believing it is acceptable to be “ironically” racist.
  • Believing that people need to “get over it” or “move on” when they point out racism; and,
  • The belief that cultural products and practices that come from communities of color are yours for the taking.




This blows my mind. A Caucasian can grow up in the same neighborhood as an African American, attend the same schools, etc., and based on an essay by Peggy McIntosch, the Caucasian automatically has “white privilege”.

Maybe this is true in some situations. I do feel this has continued to contribute to the divide of races.

During my “conversation” yesterday, I mentioned that African Americans have many beneficial programs developed specifically that are NOT offered to other races. My feuders response was along the lines that if there was not racist/ racism, the programs would not be necessary.

I completely agree. Unfortunately, no one can go back and change the past. We can move forward, correct? Who and what continues to cause this divide?

Think about that.

Are Caucasians not receptive to the fact that racism is still radical or are African Americans continuing to fuel the fire because they are still upset over the past?

Do African Americans hold themselves back?

Do Caucasians hold African Americans back?

How do WE get through this? How do WE unite?

Removing the statues from the Confederacy may make some African Americans feel better, it also offends the Sons and Daughters of the Confederacy. The Confederate War to them did not stand for slavery necessarily. Here, again there is another divide. No one sees eye to eye on the meaning behind the statues. They are just offensive and represent slavery. 

We live in a world of “offensiveness” and the land of the offended!

At what point do we come together as one and put our differences aside?

Several major things I realized yesterday during this entire backlash on social media was, I can be called a racist, I can be called “white privileged”, I can be hated for my political views, but I am human. I can have my views. I can want equality. A lack of victim mentality does not make me a racist nor does it make me less empathetic to what others have gone through. I have other ways of coping with adversity.

If the color of my skin has provided me privileges, I would love to know exactly what those privileges are.

If I am a racist for wanting equality for all, it sounds like you may want to look deep into your own soul.

I have researched why it is offensive to say All Lives Matter; the reasons given are I am not acknowledging black lives. I am confused. I thought black lives were part of ALL lives. Please forgive my insensitivity as I work through this and try to further understand.

I have researched why Caucasians should not say “I do not see color”. The explanation was because people of color want their color seen. I am confused again. You cannot have it both ways. I say I see you as a person. What kind of person do you want me to see you as? Please forgive me for my ignorance as I try to work through this.

Please understand that I am NOT minimizing the discrimination anyone else has faced, nor am I discrediting it. I have faced it personally.

I can however say out of four generations of my family, we have not owned slaves, my family has been of the interracial mix for over 30 years (if not longer). Yes, some members disagreed, it was our responsibility to teach our children that views on racism were wrong. People should be measured by their character, not their color!

The multiple and mixed races in my family know the history behind slavery, they also know love, they know that the change against discrimination begins with each person.

I will not apologize for speaking my truth and beliefs. I will not apologize for not wanting to be a part of a “movement” group that I do not trust nor believe in their core values. That is my right. 

I support ALL lives, Black lives matter, White lives matter, Latino lives matter, Asian lives matter, Animal lives matter, ALL!!!!! 

I WILL apologize and always have empathy for ANYONE that faces discrimination, those whose lives are taken unjustly, those who face any type of violent act due to their race, religion, gender, etc.

Let there be a STOP to violence, police brutality, racism, and injustices. Please don’t put everyone in the same category while doing so!

In the end, WE are ALL God’s children.

If you do not believe in GOD, know this,


We may differ in color on the outside, on the inside, we have hearts, we have brains, we have emotions and feelings.




4 replies »

  1. Everyone has right for speaking what he believes in and you don’t have to apologize if anyone disagree with your view. I say since everyone look at things different way,so,they also thinks in different way.In the end,if you have different thinking then other that doesn’t make you a racist!


    • Thank you so much! I was so scared about this post. This was a hard week. I have a biracial granddaughter on the way any day now, an amazing African American daughter in law, my first grandson is my hear and he is Brazilian. I have a 2 biracial nephews, 1 niece, 9 cousins! I’m sure you get the picture. So being called a racist because I don’t support disruption and watching others continue to teach hate when my family teaches equality and love has been disheartening.
      Thank you so much for the kind words and for reading


Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s